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Q&As

You may have lots of questions that you don’t know the answer to. These are some typical questions that you may be asking, with some answers you might find helpful.

How do I avoid drugs but still go to cool parties?

When alcohol and drugs are readily available at parties, you may feel peer pressure to use them as a way to fit in. Here are some tips on staying safe when you party:
– Find friends who don’t need drugs to party.
– Check out who’ll be at a party and what the plans are before you commit to something that may turn out to be an awkward situation for you.
– Know the facts about drugs.
– Stop to think before you make decisions that you might regret.
The cool crowds are the people who appreciate you for who you are, not for what you do or don’t do.

If you use drugs at a young age, does it mess up your life?
Science has shown that the earlier a person starts using drugs, the more likely he/she is to become addicted and suffer serious social and medical consequences. The reasons are complex. First, drugs affect the brain, and the brain is still maturing when a person is young—until early adulthood in fact. Thus, drugs can alter normal brain development. Second, people who use drugs when they are very young often have other problems that led to their drug use in the first place. For example, they may have difficult family situations or problems with depression or anxiety and use drugs to help them cope. Unfortunately, drug abuse just makes things worse in the long run and does not fix these problems. Third, using drugs can interfere with success in school, in sports, and in relationships with friends and family, creating more problems down the road.

Since early drug use can lead to later drug addiction and other problems, the best advice is not to even experiment with drugs. However, if someone is already using a drug, he/she should know that the earlier he/she stops, the more likely he/she is to avoid addiction and the other bad consequences associated with it.

My friend thinks I have a drinking and drug problem. What should I do?

Using alcohol or drugs regularly is usually just a step away from addiction (where you depend on these substances to feel good or get through your day).

Here are a few warning signs that someone may have a substance abuse problem:

  • relying on drugs or alcohol to have fun, forget problems, or relax
  • having blackouts
  • drinking or using drugs while alone
  • withdrawing or keeping secrets from friends or family
  • losing interest in activities that used to be important
  • performing differently in school (such as grades dropping and frequent absences)
  • building an increased tolerance to alcohol or drugs — gradually needing more and more of the substance to get the same feeling
  • lying, stealing, or selling stuff to get money for drugs or alcohol

It’s usually hard for people to recognize they have a problem, which is why friends or family often step in. Quitting is hard to do, and many people find they can’t do it without help. The best thing you can do is to talk to someone you trust — preferably an adult who can support you — so you don’t have to deal with your problem alone.

My parents have a drinking problem, but every time I try to talk about it they say I shouldn’t worry and they’re getting help. Who can I talk to?

Having a parent with a drinking problem or other addiction can be extremely tough. Alcohol and other addictions affect everyone in a family — but sometimes parents don’t realize this.

Even when parents are getting the help they need, sons and daughters have their own questions, concerns, emotions, and needs to sort through. Talking about all this with someone — whether it’s a friend, counsellor, or religious leader — is a healthy thing to do.

I think I might be depressed. I’m having a hard time paying attention in class. I just feel sad for no reason, like I can’t cope. I told my parents, and they took me to a doctor because I was also having headaches and stress. My check-up was normal. My mum listens and tries to help me feel better. My dad says I’m just not trying hard enough at school. Maybe he’s right. What should I do?

Sometimes, friends or family members recognize that someone is depressed. They may respond with love, kindness, or support, hoping that the sadness will soon pass. They may offer to listen if the person wants to talk. If the depressed feeling doesn’t pass with a little time, friends or loved ones may encourage the person to get help from a doctor, therapist, or counsellor.

But not everyone recognizes depression when it happens to someone they know or love.

Some people don’t really understand about depression. For example, they may react to a depressed person’s low energy with criticism, saying the person is acting lazy or not trying. Some mistakenly believe that depression is just an attitude or a mood that someone can shake off. They don’t realize it’s not that easy.

Sometimes, even people who are depressed don’t take their condition seriously enough. Some feel that they are weak in some way, or disappointing others because they are depressed. This isn’t right — and it can even be harmful if it causes people to hide their depression and avoid getting help.

Occasionally, when depression causes physical symptoms (things like headaches or other stress-related problems), a person may see a doctor. Once in a while, even a well-meaning doctor may not realize somebody is depressed. He or she may just pay attention to the physical symptoms.

Talk to your parents again. Tell them how you feel. You might mention that you’ve been reading up on depression and, based on the symptoms you are having, you think that might be what’s going on with you. If it’s easier, show your parents one of our articles on depression.

Ask your parents to arrange for you to meet with a counsellor or therapist to find out how you can feel better.
If you feel like you’re not getting anywhere with your parents, talk to your school counsellor.
 This is just the type of thing counsellors are there to help solve — especially when it is affecting your schoolwork. Your counsellor also may be able to help you when it comes to talking to your parents.

Feedback

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We have been asking students and teachers for their feedback on Innerviews. This is what they have said.

Students:

What did you find interesting?
“How he was in jail… But he changed his ways and is a better person”
“Carl’s story of how he managed to turn his life around”
“The drastic change to his character due to past events”
“his story is really interesting and he has really good tips”

How could the assembly be improved?
“Tell us more”
“You cant, it was too good”
“Make it longer”

Teachers:

What did you find helpful?
Real life experiences, showing how even if we make mistakes in life, we can always work hard to put the right”
“Students were very inspired”
“The frank and unpatronising nature of the talk”

Would you recommend it to other schools?
“Yes – Good honest approach students can relate to”
“Yes – Very informative and inspirational”
“Yes – Honest and clear message”

Motivation

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We want to inspire young people to see that change and turnaround is definitely possible. We hope that you find these quotes and videos inspirational and encourage you on your journey of change.

Quote of the Month

“Whatever the mind and can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve!”

Napoleon Hill

Video of the Month

Story of the Month:

Jack

Jack was a victim of bullying in school, but he wanted to do something about it. Jack became an anti-bullying ambassador at his school and has been able to turn a negative into a positive.

Read more about Jack’s story here: www.bbc.co.uk/cbbc/watch/p0295xmm

What inspires you? Tell us what or who has helped you make a change in your life so that we can share it with others.

Innerviews

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This project sees speakers go into schools and relate how they were able to change their lives from a negative path to a positive. The talks are held in an informative and structured way, which allows listeners to take away key information on the individual steps that were integral in creating change.

Speakers:

Carl Davis (born July 1987)

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My aspirations are to achieve continuous success, in my own personal, ever-changing ways

Born with his parents separated, Carl initially grew up with his mother and experienced a lot of physical and emotional abuse. At 12 years old social services became involved in his life and he was moved into the care of his father, a lack of trust and communication affected this relationship.

He experienced being bullied, as well as being a bully himself, alcohol use, drug use and crime. School was a playground for him; he did not see the use in learning. and so left school with low grades

At the age of 18 the chaotic lifestyle caught up with him and he was sent to prison in 2006, serving 5 and a half years. During this time, through hard work, soul searching,  and engaging with educational and behavioral courses Carl began to slowly change his ways. These efforts were so fruitful that before leaving prison he was already studying at Oxford Brookes university!!!

Carl’s interests are stated as being continuing self improvement, marketing, business, weight-training, martial arts and motivational speaking.

He has also been a mentor with individual teenagers, a partner in an exercise business, and is the vice president of PR in his local Toastmasters club.

His motivational story centres around the 5 steps that were integral to his change:

. Mend family relationships

. Finding out who is influencing me

. Educating myself

. Setting goals

. Taking control of actions

 

Ryan Warren:

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I was brought into this world by a 17-year-old single woman who was addicted to drugs. By the age of 8, I was acting as the father to my 3 younger siblings, who were eventually separated and we got put into different foster homes . I was constantly bullied for my disheveled appearance, my situation at home, and not having a father. Going through all of this resulted in a lot of anger and pain that I kept bottled up inside of me. Yet, even by the age of 13, I knew I wanted to be someone important and use this struggle inside of me to do something good.

I know deep down to the core that my calling in this life is to help others realise what they are capable of and achieve their goals. I came from a place of ache, like so many people do, and it is my ambition to show everyone that you can still attain your dream no matter how humble your life may have once been, or may still be. I am here to inspire others and give them to the tools they need to succeed.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9CRg_VCvnrA

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About Us

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My Turn Around (MTA) was created to be a gateway between teenagers and positive sources of information. Information which could be crucial in helping them to achieve their goals, ambitions and dreams. Whether its a motivational video, an article, a quote, or even the contact details of a community organisation. MTA aims to CONTRIBUTE and INSPIRE!!!